Not every moment needs to be about doing or improving. Some moments are just about being with the magic (or the lack of magic) around you.
Emotions are just energy and energy never lasts in the same form forever. It takes on average two hours for anger to fully dissipate and that’s if we don’t keep fueling the fire by being angry with the fact that we are angry.
It took one instant for her confidence to turn into doubt and then self-doubt. At first she thought the other dog might be her friend but then the mutt pulled a weird face and it was no longer clear, 'maybe she doesn’t like me after all?!’, my dog thought.
We get so caught up in our days with all the things on our plate that we often find ourselves running on autopilot. And while we may feel we are being efficient in this state, it actually causes us to lose vital information our mind and body are trying to share with us.
A silver lining of going through hardship is you naturally stop caring so much about what other people think of you.
Cultivating self-acceptance whilst focusing on personal growth has been a tenet of well-being since the time of Aristotle in Ancient Greece. And it is just as, if not more, relevant for us today.
Stop dealing with stress through control and start reducing it through connecting to your authentic self.
Nothing lasts forever — not even stress. No matter how intense a problem or how significant a challenge, life moves on eventually. This too shall pass, as the Sufi poets taught us.
Of course, understanding the inherent ephemerality of life does little for us when we’re in the thick of a problem. All things may be temporary, but stress sure does feel permanent when it sinks its teeth in. It doesn’t matter what we do or how hard we try, we can’t seem to shake it. The stress, the challenge, the problem sticks around.
In times of small challenges and big ones, the first thing we can do is just listen.
Taking the time to actively listen to ourselves, others, and the world around us not only gives us knowledge and insight but calmness and stability too.
What is your mind, body, spirit trying to show you?
What are others trying to tell you with their words, body, actions?
What are the trees, birds, winds, rivers trying to teach you?
The answers are within and around us, we just need to first be able to listen for them.
Rarely do we solve problems by staring at a screen. Our best ideas come when we step away and look out - when we daydream. Here's some steps to do so.
Riding the subway home the other day I caught myself daydreaming. It was a wonderful feeling. The rattling of the train, the faces and the sounds around me ... all of them slipped away as my brain turned in on itself. I felt my ideas start to wander. I felt the joy of discovery, watching where my brain roamed free of my own judgement, free to just be.
I used to daydream all the time. I was known for it back in high school in Australia. I remember sitting cross-legged in a circle of girlfriends. Everyone would be talking and I would zone out. My friends knew the look — my gaze went distant, my eyes stopped blinking.