self awareness

Being Angry About Being Angry

Try not to be angry for yourself for being angry, that just fuels the fire. Let yourself feel the rage and frustration so the energy can dissipate instead of refuel and linger.

Emotions are just energy and energy never lasts in the same form forever. It takes on average two hours for anger to fully dissipate and that’s if we don’t keep fueling the fire by being angry with the fact that we are angry.

Emotions are the most natural part of being human and a moment doesn’t go by when we are not feeling something. If you are experiencing an unwanted emotion, like anger often is, the quickest way to stop being in that emotional state is to let it carry out its term. Try letting go of the need to feel different immediately. If you can endure the unpleasantness with self-compassion and without projecting your anger onto another, the unpleasantness will be over sooner than if you fight it.

The Good And Bad Powers Of Doubt

Doubt can be a remedy or a disease. Knowing whether to listen to your doubt or ignore it is what makes it either harmful or helpful.

It took one instant for her confidence to turn into doubt and then self-doubt. At first she thought the other dog might be her friend but then the mutt pulled a weird face and it was no longer clear, 'maybe she doesn’t like me after all?!’, my dog thought. Her tail immediately stopped wagging as she rolled onto her back in her submissive, ‘I‘m not worthy’ position hoping this would make the mutt accept her.

We’re so similar to dogs in many ways. Doubt can so quickly take over and affect our behavior. In some instances this can stop us from getting hurt and in other instances it can be the cause of us getting hurt. When we understand why we are feeling doubtful and learn how to contain it, we can know when to use it to make decisions or discard it as a hindering self-doubt.

Managing Expectations Is A Daily Practice

To be content: Let yourself be satisfied at the end of the day whether your expectations were met or not.

Some days go as planned, other days don't. Sometimes amazing things happen out of the blue, other times disappointed strikes you down when you least expect it.

There is so much in our day we can't control. What worked yesterday might not work tomorrow. So at the end of each day, if you can find satisfaction in where you are, the contentment you feel that evening will fuel you to get up and do it all over again the next morning.